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1.gl??r?s]adj.富有魅力的;迷人的
2.clg[kl??]to忠实于
3.endeavor[dev?]n.努力,尽力
4.evitably[evit?bli]adv.不可避免地;必然地
5.charitable[t??rit?bl]adj.慈善的;施舍慷慨的;宽容的
6.ntribute[k?ntribju:t]to促成;有助于
7.pera[p?:?n?nt]adj.永久的,永恒的;永远的
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我住在好莱坞迪斯尼乐园，那里全年阳光普照。你可能认为生活在那么富于魅力，充满乐趣的地方，一定比其他地方的人更幸福。如果这么想，你可能对幸福的真谛有些误解。
很多聪明的人仍将幸福等同于乐趣。其实，乐趣和幸福的共同之处极少，或者说根本就没有。乐趣是行为过程中的感受，而幸福是我们行为过后的感受，它是一种更为深刻、持久的感情。人们坚信充满欢乐，远离痛苦的生活方式就等于幸福。实际上，这样反而减少了他们获得真正幸福的机会。如果欢乐和愉快等同于幸福，那痛苦就等同于不幸。其实恰恰相反，多数情况下，能带来幸福的事物往往包含诸多痛苦。
所以说，许多人所逃避的艰难困苦恰恰是真正幸福的源泉。这些人害怕那些必定会带来痛苦的事情，如结婚、抚养子女、提高专业技能、承担宗教义务、社会服务或慈善事业，提升自我等。
尽管一个单身者对约会越来越不感兴趣，但当你问他为什么还不想结婚时，如果他很诚实，就会告诉你，他怕承担责任。因为承担责任确实是一件痛苦的事情。独身生活充满着乐趣、冒险和**。婚姻虽然也有如此体验，却大为逊色。
同样，选择不要孩子的夫妻都有一种观点，即宁可要不痛苦的欢乐，也不要痛苦的幸福。他们可以随时出去吃饭，旅游，想睡到多晚就睡多晚。而有孩子的夫妻，睡上一整晚，或有三
天假期，算是幸运的了。我想，任何夫妇都不会用“乐趣”这个词来形容抚养孩子。
但是，不要孩子的夫妇永远也体会不到，拥抱孩子或晚上给孩子掖好被子时的愉悦。他们永远不知道，看着孩子长大或者逗弄儿孙的乐趣。